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Preparing for divorce when you see one coming

On Behalf of | Apr 7, 2024 | Divorce |

Divorce is a difficult and emotionally charged experience. This can be especially true when a decision to divorce occurs unexpectedly. But sometimes, the warning signs are there – a growing distance, unresolved conflicts or a fundamental shift within a relationship.

If you suspect that divorce might be on the horizon, taking proactive steps to prepare for what may come next can streamline the process and make it less stressful.

Seek emotional support

A divorce can be emotionally devastating. Therefore, having a strong support system before it all unfolds is crucial. Confide in close friends, family members or a therapist who can offer a listening ear and unbiased guidance.

Consider joining a divorce support group to connect with others going through a similar experience. You should also prioritize self-care practices like:

  • Healthy eating
  • Regular exercise
  • Getting enough sleep

You can consider activities like meditation or yoga to manage stress and anxiety. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help if you’re struggling to cope emotionally.

Understand your finances

Financial uncertainty is a major stressor during a divorce. Thankfully, you can achieve some level of certainty by gathering important financial documents like:

  • Bank statements
  • Tax returns
  • Investment records
  • Mortgage statements

With this pertinent financial information, you can then create a budget that outlines your income and expenses to understand your current financial standing.

If you suspect your spouse might try to hide assets, take discreet steps to help protect yourself. This may involve opening a separate bank account or making copies of important financial documents you keep at home. However, avoid actions that could be construed as malicious or secretive

You should also collect crucial documents like the marriage certificate, birth certificates of children (if any), prenuptial agreements (if applicable) and proof of income. Having these documents readily available can expedite the legal process if a divorce becomes inevitable.

Prioritize your children’s well-being

If you have children, their well-being should be your top priority. You can begin by thinking about a potential custody arrangement and how to minimize the disruption to their routine. Avoid putting your children in the middle of any conflict and maintain open communication with them throughout the process.

Preparing for a potential divorce doesn’t mean giving up hope for your marriage. However, it can empower you to navigate a challenging situation with greater clarity and control. Remember, you are not alone. With the right legal support, planning and self-care, you can emerge from this difficult phase stronger and ready to build a brighter future.